Today at the age of 39 now when I look back at my childhood I often cannot differentiate between whether I was the only child or the lonely child. Although my parents were more than friends for me but when it comes to siblings I always longed for one. All my classmates had elder or younger sister or brother.
The basic emotions or personality traits that a child experiences in his or her life eg, being teased, jealousy, sharing, selfishness, caring, love, hatred, to look up to someone etc. are essential parts of a child’s growing up years, which I feel play an important role in shaping the personality of a person. Nowadays due to the work pressures, the changing society and the concept of a nuclear family, more and more people are by choice deciding to have just one child. They are completely ignoring the cons that their decision can have in the long run.
They feel they are just making the right decision as the children are more demanding these days, one can provide the best of education, upbringing and just everything if there is just a single child.
They have a huge list of pros to support their decision. Let us today have a look at the cons too.
Being the only child, the parents are themselves making their child the lonely child. Having friends in school is just not enough as they need someone of their level at home too with whom the child can interact at his or her level.
Sending the children to the best of schools we are providing them the best of book knowledge but how about the whole experience of living up the incidents and the memories that might be created out of those incidents. We as parents are unconsciously depriving our children of all those small incidents and memories that they can cherish the whole of their lives.
Today people say that how many of us get along with their siblings later in life. Yes it’s true, but if we see how many of us actually turn our back to our siblings when they really need us irrespective of the fact that we get along or no. There are still many things one cannot share with their spouses and one can openly discuss with ones siblings.
Siblings are and shall always be a big support system in every society. And one should not deprive a child the pleasure of having a sibling and happy childhood memories. Being pessimistic is very easy but in that case any relation can go sour at any stage be it of husband- wife, mother- daughter, father- son.
Does that mean that we start living in isolation alone and run away from relations.
Give your children a happy childhood not by just fulfilling their materialistic needs but also their emotional needs.